I read for a client on Saturday. This lady had recently lost, due to bereavement her father and partner, both within a very short time of each other. Understandably she was consumed with grief.
The massive life change she has had to embrace, combined with the surge of emotions that she must be feeling at present is enough to knock anyone off their feet.
Then why oh why do we always expect that we should just recover, and continue, resuming from where we left off.
When we experience bereavement, or loss of any kind, we never seem to give ourselves enough time to recover. To nurture ourselves, to give ourselves some self love and self care.
To spend time with family, and our friends. To heal our mind, body and spirit, these are essentials to aid in our recovery, if we rush into returning back to our busy lives, how do we think we shall heal from such an experience.
To find some acceptance of our situation and understanding of what has happened. To understand that we all have to stop, and grieve. To process the situation, and then to face the finality, knowing that we have changed, and nothing will be the same again.
We can then start to accept that we now have a blank slate, a chance to rebuild our lives again, getting to know ourselves as the people we are now, and not who we used to be.
To know that we all have hope. Hope is all we need.